Thanks for your comment Uma!! Love that you loved this one. Yes! Definitely agree. I fought some big ones to be here. I'm grateful. It took me 15 years to speak on it in this way from this place. I realize now, the then me wasn't ready for the me that has arrived now. That's just a fact! I'm cool with that. Thanks ☮️💜🙏🏾
As mothers, we deserve the right to be soft since we've have just done something a powerful as to give birth. Yet, as a black woman who are mother's if you aren't hard, you won't be seen as a protector to your boys. If you don't correct and lead your girls, they could be led a stray by those who pry.
Once, we allowed ourselves the freedom to be women without labels. We can learn and examine how to embody the many roles we hold and embrace our place in society.
I couldn't agree more. Thanks for your comment and for sharing your perspective and experience with this piece. I truly appreciate you. You’re welcome. Much ❤️🙏🏾
Thank you for your comment and compliment on the piece. Thanks for sharing what stood out for you as you read the article as well. You’re most welcome.
This was a powerful and deeply honest reflection. What stayed with me most was the distinction between safety and freedom. So many people speak about survival, but far fewer speak about what it takes to reclaim yourself afterward. Your words captured the complexity of motherhood, not as a loss of identity, but as an expansion of it. Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable and meaningful piece.
Safia, thank you for your comment, thanks for reading as well. I appreciate you sharing what stuck with you as you read this piece. Thank you for the compliments as well. I agree with you, while writing it I wanted to give voice to not losing our identity in motherhood because we are far more than just the roles we step into, so you’re right it is an expansion of our identity. I think that being here on Substack is also pushing me as a writer. I'm enjoying this and owning it. Thanks again☮️💜🙏🏾
Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I really connected with the way you explored identity beyond motherhood. It felt honest and relatable. I'm glad Substack is helping you grow and giving you space to embrace your voice as a writer. I'm looking forward to reading more of your work. Thank you for sharing it.
You’re very welcome! That's wonderful, I appreciate your feedback on what really worked for you and what you connected with. Thanks for the encouragement and support always!
Hey
Loved this piece
To be free after a court battle and to get a custody of your son has taught you to survive at all odds
It has made you stronger , to be at peace with your loving family 💜☮️💜
A very good perspective Naima
Niceeee
💜☮️💜☮️
And maybe most importantly, an example of a woman who did not disappear inside motherhood… but expanded because of it.
Thanks for your comment Uma!! Love that you loved this one. Yes! Definitely agree. I fought some big ones to be here. I'm grateful. It took me 15 years to speak on it in this way from this place. I realize now, the then me wasn't ready for the me that has arrived now. That's just a fact! I'm cool with that. Thanks ☮️💜🙏🏾
As mothers, we deserve the right to be soft since we've have just done something a powerful as to give birth. Yet, as a black woman who are mother's if you aren't hard, you won't be seen as a protector to your boys. If you don't correct and lead your girls, they could be led a stray by those who pry.
Once, we allowed ourselves the freedom to be women without labels. We can learn and examine how to embody the many roles we hold and embrace our place in society.
Thanks for transparency cousin!
I couldn't agree more. Thanks for your comment and for sharing your perspective and experience with this piece. I truly appreciate you. You’re welcome. Much ❤️🙏🏾
What a beautiful reflection on identity, motherhood and becoming. Thank you for sharing such a personal part of your story 🙏😊🤍
Thank you for your comment and compliment on the piece. Thanks for sharing what stood out for you as you read the article as well. You’re most welcome.
🙏🏾☮️💜😊
This was a powerful and deeply honest reflection. What stayed with me most was the distinction between safety and freedom. So many people speak about survival, but far fewer speak about what it takes to reclaim yourself afterward. Your words captured the complexity of motherhood, not as a loss of identity, but as an expansion of it. Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable and meaningful piece.
Safia, thank you for your comment, thanks for reading as well. I appreciate you sharing what stuck with you as you read this piece. Thank you for the compliments as well. I agree with you, while writing it I wanted to give voice to not losing our identity in motherhood because we are far more than just the roles we step into, so you’re right it is an expansion of our identity. I think that being here on Substack is also pushing me as a writer. I'm enjoying this and owning it. Thanks again☮️💜🙏🏾
Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I really connected with the way you explored identity beyond motherhood. It felt honest and relatable. I'm glad Substack is helping you grow and giving you space to embrace your voice as a writer. I'm looking forward to reading more of your work. Thank you for sharing it.
You’re very welcome! That's wonderful, I appreciate your feedback on what really worked for you and what you connected with. Thanks for the encouragement and support always!
Absolutely LOVE this!
Thanks beautiful